‘Time is free but it is priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it, you can never get it back’ – Harvey Mackay
I had originally typed up another NYE message to the world ( or whoever actually reads this) but with recent events, I have have had to alter certain elements stating that 2015 had been the happiest year of my life. In many ways, this year has still been without a doubt awesome.
If you ask a fair few number of people on what defines a good year, you would more than likely get many a response. However I can predict that several, if not all people would mention happiness at some point. Being happy on a daily basis is something which we all take for granted. We only really appreciate the times that we were happy for no reason when we are sad. We long to be happy doing nothing as we were a few weeks ago when we didn’t even realise that we were.
Happiness is created by having a good time. But what actually is time? Time is not infinite- that’s for sure. We know this, so we use our time doing what we want to try and live a happy balanced life.
Life is a matter of priorities and we often get judged by the priorities that we make. Priorities are often, if not always controlled by convenience . If something is easy, doesn’t take up much time and involves minimal effort then naturally in a slightly warped way, these tasks/duties become our priorities. Our priorities become our habits. Although we might want to do other things we somehow no longer ‘have the time’ We put things off and off and off because we think ‘ Oh, its okay, I’ve got time.’ But here’s the thing. Yes, we have time. We just don’t know how much time. We don’t know when our time will be up, or indeed the time of those we love.
Since I started travelling, I guess I have become more and more aware of life and making life choices. So many people go through life waiting and waiting to do something. They will put something off because its inconvenient, or because they are scared. And then it’s too late. You have been timed out.
I like to think that I do do what I want most of the time. But I am aware that I do put things off- most of which involve seeing friends. Don’t get me wrong, I like to see my friends. Sometimes it is just easier to see certain friends rather than others. Now this isn’t essentially one-sided and I’m not the villain in all of this. As I said, everyone has priorities… Anyway regardless of who’s to blame here there are certain people that I definitely should have seen more of this year.
A few days ago I found out that one of my oldest and dearest bestfriends had lost her life in one of the cruelest ways imaginable. We had drifted completely apart in the last 5 years, through no real reason. Friendship groups.. lifestyle, I dunno. We had been in some contact over the recent years but we had never managed to actually properly catch up over a coffee or something. I did think and hope that one day we would actually catch up, I wasn’t sure when, but I knew it would happen. So I guess, on my behalf, I left it too late. I’ve been timed out.
And so for 2016 if I could pin down 1 aim or 1 ambition it’s that to keep the people in my life who I want in my life. To not let them drift away. If that means going out of my way to see them, I’ll do it, If it means staying up till 4am to chat online I will do it. I am going to try my best not to be lazy in this department anymore. Life is too damn short to put things off till tomorrow.
This is something we should all think about.
Happy New Year. Make 2016 the year that you make time.