Sometimes not getting what you want can be the biggest stroke of luck.

As the sun has finally on the last day of 2014, upon reflection, if this year has taught me anything then it is definitely the statement above.

In a world governed by the butterfly effect, where a flap of her wings can lead to an earthquake 1000 miles away. We may reflect on the small and at the time insignificant choices that we made. One way or another, the choices that we have made, the paths we have followed and advice we have taken have all lead us to exactly where we are now on New Years Eve 2014. It is the day that ends the year, where we leave anything we want behind as we look forward to a new and prosperous new year. But what about the choices that we didn’t make?, the paths we had no choice but to follow?, the advice which unfortunately became our only reality?

Sometimes when something really bad happens of which you had no control, it does feel like the end of the world.You can see absolutely no moving on from it.
It’s what you do next that matters. Its how you pick yourself back up and tidy up the mess around you. You can listen to what people say and you can follow their advice. Sometimes all you can do is sit tight, but I can assure you now that these things do take time.

Things may indeed never be the same again. But, maybe that’s a good thing. Maybe the change was meant for you. The change deliberately sparked a fire inside of you and has lead you to the place that you are in now. Change, although not everyone’s best friend is inevitable. We do live in a world of impermanence, Nothing can last forever. I believe that is by far the saddest thing about our existence. But at the same time, the most beautiful. After all, without evil we wouldn’t be able to recognise good. without suffering sadness, we wouldn’t appreciate happiness. Life is constantly up and down, every year, every month, week, day, hour…

So, after reflecting on all the good things that happened to you this year, although I understand that may be few, think of all the things you didn’t want to happen, all the things that went wrong, the grades you just missed out on, the job you didn’t get, the relationship that ended, the one that barely started… Then think of all the fantastic things that wouldn’t have happened if you had got what you’d wanted. The holidays you wouldn’t have had, the countries you wouldn’t have visited, The job you have now, the new friendships made, the old friendships made stronger. None of that would have been possible if you had got what you wanted.

We live in a state of flux. Anything can change at anytime. A second has the ability to change the shape of your life forever.

If you didn’t get what you wanted, if something happened that you didn’t want, remember that something even more fantastic may be just around the corner and what’s for you won’t pass you by.

Sometimes not getting what you want really is the biggest stroke of luck.